Matter of Facts: Finding Balance

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[00:00:23] Welcome back to Matterfax Podcast. There are no banners today. This is going to be a nice

[00:00:28] show. We have Jay Ferg from Phoenix Survival joining me and Andrew and the topic of the show

[00:00:36] is finding balance because recently Andrew and I had a personal discussion that got me thinking about

[00:00:45] burnout and what happens when adulting gets to the best of us. The focal point of this show

[00:00:53] has always been preparedness and prepared citizens. When you add that on top of just

[00:00:57] regular 9-5 adulting and dealing with kids and spouses and PTA meetings and all that crap,

[00:01:04] then you get into a situation where it's really easy for a person to get completely

[00:01:10] down in a rut, overwhelmed, always thinking about the next thing to get to on the to-do list.

[00:01:17] I have personally felt and I suspect everybody has personally felt that wear them down to a nub

[00:01:24] so I thought that bore discussing today because everything that we do here is in the name of

[00:01:30] being able to care for ourselves and our families but if it grinds us down into the dust,

[00:01:35] we're not able to do that. I have spoken for two minutes straight. Somebody needs to

[00:01:43] tell me to shut up and like you know. No, the softer kinder side of feel is kind of cute.

[00:01:51] My wife and daughter would agree with you. They're usually the only ones that get to see it but

[00:01:55] I mean you know it bears pointing out like I've been Andrew knows I was the other the show we did

[00:02:03] just a couple days ago where I was like oh I feel like I'm having allergy tag. No,

[00:02:06] it was not an allergy tag. It was a sign of infection because the next morning I was like

[00:02:11] down for the count. I put in about five hours of work and then I was I had to take the rest of the

[00:02:16] day off. I took a nap in the middle of the day which I never do and I was just I was goofed up

[00:02:23] like I you know dayquil is a hell of a drug. I don't understand how dayquil and nightquil are

[00:02:28] not controlled substances but cocaine is because I was high as a kite off of dayquil and night

[00:02:34] It's not the same chemical component. I can tell you exactly what's in each of those medications.

[00:02:40] Yeah, all I know is the end effect was I would not have trusted myself to operate heavy machinery

[00:02:45] at at in the state I was in but you know it was one of those things where like I my wife and I

[00:02:52] actually we were discussing it not three minutes before I sat down with y'all and this morning

[00:02:58] I told her or last night I told her hey before you and Piper head out the door wake me up

[00:03:03] because I wanted to say goodbye to him for the day and I woke up at 8 30 and the house was empty

[00:03:07] and I was like nobody woke me up what the hell so we she and I were talking about it and she was

[00:03:12] like well you were snoring you were tired you needed your sleep and I'm like I didn't need

[00:03:15] my sleep I was fine I needed to wake up and say yeah but you know it is it's one of those

[00:03:22] things where like I happily admit that there is a large component of my personality and I

[00:03:27] couldn't tell you if it if it stems from like my time is it combat veteran if it stems from

[00:03:33] like my personality as a prepper if it's just like part of being dad and husband but like I

[00:03:40] don't know how to downshift I don't know how to oh I'm going to take it easy or oh I'm going to

[00:03:45] I'm not going to work on something today I don't know how to do that it's constant go go go

[00:03:50] I'm the same way I think it comes back to that old saying you know devil the idle hands or the

[00:03:57] devil's playground so we grew up in a generation where idleness is laziness and to feel like you're

[00:04:04] even being remotely lazy means you're not getting anything done so for me it's the same way like

[00:04:09] Chris will laugh at me because he's like can't you sit down and watch a movie and I'm like

[00:04:14] no not very well I really can't I can't sit still so I'm sewing or crocheting or in the garden

[00:04:22] or cooking or cleaning or something because I cannot sit still cannot what about you Andrew is

[00:04:31] is this is that is this three-way Venn diagram like hitting a center point for you or are you

[00:04:37] the rare exception out of three of us that can like type B personality and just take take a

[00:04:42] personal day well I just woke up no no no I mean no I mean I get it I understand and you know you're

[00:04:54] you're constantly going I mean when it comes to work when it comes to my full-time job yeah I mean

[00:05:01] I'm constantly going it's it's always usually pretty busy I mean picking up overtime picking up

[00:05:07] I mean just working two three weeks in a row just trying to just basically not having any time I

[00:05:14] work I come home I sleep I wake up yeah and lately with the new job like the job shift that

[00:05:25] I've had now I can't pick up overtime so I got more downtime and so it's been it's been a change

[00:05:34] but like today I mean well yesterday I did some running around got mowed the lawn did a bunch

[00:05:42] of stuff around the house today I just woke up and it was one of those things where like I mean I

[00:05:46] woke up at I don't know nine o'clock or eight thirty or whatever it was and I'm like today is not

[00:05:54] it's gonna be a day where I do nothing and it was just it's been kind of a dreary day out a

[00:05:59] little bit it's been raining I mean it's it's spring so it's in Michigan here spring time is

[00:06:05] usually where I mean it freaking rains all the time and so like I was thinking like I'll go camping and

[00:06:11] then tomorrow I actually have to meet up with some family for a memorial and so I'm like well I could

[00:06:15] go camping okay I could go I'd have to be I'd have to be up and out of the campsite by like around

[00:06:20] eight thirty nine o'clock I'm like Nantle why I'm just gonna relax well I ended up sitting there

[00:06:25] just kind of chilling and yeah I fell asleep on the couch and I woke up I'm like oh it's 545

[00:06:31] so uh single I mean single no kids I guess also working second but for context you work second

[00:06:42] shift so yeah you have to arrange your I guess what I want to tell the listenership is like to

[00:06:48] understand what he's saying you have to arrange your your workday eight hours later in the day

[00:06:53] than most of his work to understand what that how to equate that to you know

[00:06:58] are you still I mean are you still doing the other on the side or was it EMS

[00:07:02] firefighter what was it no I was doing firefighter on the side a few years ago but since I I quit

[00:07:09] doing that and then I moved when I bought my house I moved and I haven't picked up the

[00:07:14] the fire side of it anymore so so it's just basically yeah working security supervisor now

[00:07:22] and so I mean I did have some I had some administrative stuff I had to take care of on you know being

[00:07:28] day off and stuff like that I had to get some stuff in for the guys and everything but uh

[00:07:32] I mean so I did it was like 30 minutes of work really but um no it yeah it's interesting I just

[00:07:41] I don't mind going hard and taking not taking time off and I'm in doing it but

[00:07:47] at the same time when it comes down to a day of relaxing I I mean I'm like I said I'm single I have

[00:07:54] no kids um I really don't have any pressing matters going on so it's just like if it's not

[00:08:00] gonna happen if something's going not if something that I don't need to do if it

[00:08:05] that means relaxing then yeah I mean if I if someone calls and says hey can you come

[00:08:08] you know want to hang out or do whatever then yeah by all means I'm gonna do it

[00:08:12] get out of the house and stuff but at the same time it's just like I'm completely okay with being a

[00:08:18] homebody and that's um you know and that's honestly like and that's funny because in my dating profile

[00:08:24] I put that I said I'd like being active I like getting out but I'm okay with being a homebody

[00:08:29] wait wait where can the listeners find you if they're looking for a homebody

[00:08:34] grinder oh

[00:08:36] oh

[00:08:38] I thought you had your girlfriend from the jail please

[00:08:42] nah I thought I thought about I found the I found the website where you can actually write

[00:08:55] no but all serious assignment like sorry I I guess what I think about though is like the fact

[00:09:01] that like yeah you you can you have that you have that mindset where you're able to just

[00:09:05] like take a day and be lazy and I feel like a complete douche canoe afterwards which I am still

[00:09:11] yeah same but at the same time that that day in day out I go to work I'm a homebody that can be

[00:09:18] dangerous too well yeah because I'm all I'm all I'm also I have okay so this is I've said this

[00:09:23] before and it always sounds weird saying it on the podcast but like I am an extraordinary

[00:09:28] introvert which most people find very very shocking because you know Andrew and I've

[00:09:32] been podcasting for about eight years now well like I've been in content I've had my face on the

[00:09:37] internet for eight years so when I talk about how oh yeah I'm a major introvert like I'm very private

[00:09:42] I'm very quiet I don't like being out in public I don't like going out around a lot of people

[00:09:47] people are shocked because they're like but you've been you should been showing your face on

[00:09:51] the internet for eight years and I'm like but I'm only ever talking to like one or two people

[00:09:55] so as long as I keep that in my headspace I'm okay with it but like when I go to prepper camp

[00:10:00] Gillian knows that when I get as soon as I get in the truck on my way home I need that 12 hours

[00:10:06] to decompress because as much as I love meeting people it drains me I by the time I get done

[00:10:13] with all that I'm exiled I am emotionally exhausted I am I've been keyed up and had the dial

[00:10:18] turned to 11 for three days straight and I am ready to be by myself for a couple of hours

[00:10:25] so I think that's where I'm a little opposite of you is I work remote from home now so I'm not on

[00:10:31] my feet 24 seven so as soon as I get off the computer I don't want to sit down anymore after

[00:10:37] sitting for as long as I have all day not included in the overtime I will go out for a hike usually

[00:10:44] after work I actually will take the stroller and my son and I will walk almost two miles around

[00:10:48] the neighborhood and then come back before I start my evening with the cook in the clean

[00:10:53] and whatever because I'm gonna be honest with you being trapped in the house from nine to five

[00:10:58] all week drives me stir crazy that Chris works out of the home so when he comes home he wants

[00:11:03] to sit down and decompress I need to get out of the house because I'm going stir crazy

[00:11:10] well the house is turned the house I mean working from home it working from home has

[00:11:14] helped a lot of people especially from COVID and stuff like that but it's but when your home

[00:11:19] turns into your office for eight hours of the day I mean like you need to get out of the office

[00:11:24] right you know that's kind of like I need to get out of the office I need to get out of the house

[00:11:28] I just need to do something and that's why I'll go for walks I spend the rest of my evening in

[00:11:33] the garden or working with the chickens and playing with my son outside just so I do not

[00:11:39] have well because this bedroom is my office space so until I have to actually go to sleep and

[00:11:45] sometimes we don't even sleep in the bedroom just because I'm like I don't want to go back

[00:11:49] upstairs all right not a problem we've got a huge comfortable couch I will fall asleep right

[00:11:54] there and not give two shits yeah yeah no I mean but that's the thing is like you know talking

[00:11:59] about ruts and stuff like that and routines really I mean a routine isn't a terrible thing to have

[00:12:04] but like what Phil and I were talking about yesterday uh texting back and forth is all

[00:12:09] right uh and so yeah I mean I like relax and I like kind of having a day off where I just

[00:12:13] don't do a single thing I might sit on the porch and smoke a few cigars but that's about it

[00:12:19] I mean you know but the same time though is that can be dangerous because if it goes into

[00:12:24] okay now instead of work work sleep repeat it's like okay work sleep repeat for your days on

[00:12:31] and then your days off you just sit around the house and do nothing that still is not a very good

[00:12:35] thing I mean that's and that's kind of why I built my truck out with my thought process of

[00:12:40] building the truck like I did where I can just throw a my electric cooler in and so maybe

[00:12:46] a couple change of clothes and I can just get on the road and go somewhere um to interrupt that rut

[00:12:50] to get out of that routine that bad routine of okay I'm just gonna go home and then I'm you know my

[00:12:55] days off I'm gonna sit I'm gonna sit at home and I'm gonna do nothing like I mean try to get out

[00:13:00] and do something even if it's going out in the woods and two or three days about myself.

[00:13:04] We do the same but I end up going down to the beach there's a few private beaches

[00:13:08] I will load up Jericho I will Chris will sometimes come with if he wants to if he

[00:13:13] doesn't no big deal I actually carry my go bag and then my carry carrying harness that

[00:13:21] Jane not James that Rick and Jane gave me and so I'll wear him and walk down the beach and we'll

[00:13:27] walk and just get out of the house we'll go down the trails whatever. Yeah yeah no it's a good thing

[00:13:34] because I mean it breaks up that routine that daily I mean you know I guess whatever you

[00:13:39] want to call it rut routine it breaks it up so uh so yes so relaxing isn't a bad thing going

[00:13:47] you know balls the wall I mean all the time it's you're gonna burn yourself out but you can also

[00:13:51] burn yourself out by laziness too in a way I mean I know a lot of people around the world do it but

[00:13:57] and are pretty good at it um being that they leech off the government but that's a different show

[00:14:01] um but for those of us on my podcast in the morning if you're not working because I definitely

[00:14:08] get some horrible stuff from government for I mean for for those of us that are used to just

[00:14:14] working a lot and putting in the hours and then not having a day off I mean you gotta change

[00:14:19] that and so you've got to be able to kind of relax and sit down and smoke a cigar have a beer

[00:14:24] if you don't you know just sit down and just relax take a breath it's I think that's for me

[00:14:29] is you you say sit down and relax that is one of my vices is I like to have a cigar every now and then

[00:14:35] so I will sit down I will go outside and I'll sit right next to our little fire pit I'll smoke a

[00:14:42] cigar and get to enjoy the evening outside till it cools down that's probably the only time I'm

[00:14:46] not as active but that's fine though that but that's your that's the time that's for you

[00:14:53] that's what it takes for you to uh to kind of just um I don't want to say unwind but it just

[00:14:59] it's that that that time is like it might not happen every single day or do it do it all the time but

[00:15:05] it's that that one thing that you do different is just that way that's what gets you out of

[00:15:10] like that routine gets you out of that rut um to kind of get your mind shifted into a different

[00:15:14] direction um just thinking different and everything so but sometimes projects helps too though

[00:15:20] having something outside of your regular routine like for me I I do have um my sewing projects I'm

[00:15:26] doing I have my drop bags and then I'm working on a messenger bag and it's just things to keep me busy

[00:15:33] without feeling like I'm being idle and it doesn't take away from the everyday chores I have to do

[00:15:40] but it gives me something that if I want to lose myself for the next six hours nobody you

[00:15:45] know Chris nobody's gonna say anything because they understand I kind of need that to drown

[00:15:49] myself into to break it up break up the monotony of everything else oh see Kyle I guess my question

[00:15:56] though has to relax poor thing and all right before you're trying to start talking to the

[00:16:02] screen across the phone across the room I guess my thought process though is that like

[00:16:08] understanding that like you know some people thrive some people thrive on routine and

[00:16:15] they need routine to find their center some people routine can be toxic to them because

[00:16:21] they fall into a rut they get into they get into a habit that kind of saps like all the joy out of

[00:16:28] life some people if they don't get that time to relax that harms them and some people if they're

[00:16:35] not they don't feel like they've done enough in a day that harms them so where's the where's

[00:16:40] like in the in the middle of this Venn diagram where these two circles come together like

[00:16:44] how do we help people figure out like I feel like most people can figure out their own personality

[00:16:50] type like it shouldn't take a ton of introspective thought to look at your habits and say okay I'm

[00:16:54] a type A I'm a type B I work a lot I don't work a lot but how do we help people find that middle

[00:16:59] ground where they they recognize for themselves I need this is what this is what my reset button

[00:17:06] is and this is how I know I need to punch it like for me I like killing those and it drives

[00:17:11] nuts but I do the flight of the bumblebee routine every afternoon so as I punch out of work usually

[00:17:16] 330 it's you know do laundry do dishes cook dinner you know hit the reloading bench work on a project

[00:17:24] I'm always doing stuff so my reset button is pretty easy to figure out every now and then I just

[00:17:29] need to be lazy I need this is why I enjoy camping so much because when I go camping it's

[00:17:36] like a vacation from everything else but here's the trick and this drives my wife nuts my vacation

[00:17:44] doesn't start until the truck is empty and the campsite is set up like as soon as as soon as there's

[00:17:50] stuff as long as there's a task like if I'm if I'm getting stuff out of the truck getting

[00:17:54] stuff off the roof we're setting up the tent we're setting up the cots we're doing all that

[00:17:57] stuff as soon as everything's done and I pop open the lawn chair and I pull out the box of

[00:18:03] cigars now my vacation start because now there's nothing to do except brew coffee and make dinner

[00:18:10] and just relax but I think that's how my mind works too is once the task get done then it's

[00:18:18] break time I love you guys she's like oh well but that's a thing look she's going to be

[00:18:27] she knows her husband yeah I felt that I roll yeah no but when I go when you go camping I mean

[00:18:34] that's the thing is you don't want to sit there and pop the pop the chair and sit down relax because

[00:18:39] especially prepper camp because after you drive 12 to 14 hours like what you know what we do

[00:18:45] you don't want to get get you don't want to get there pop the camping chair and then

[00:18:49] sit your butt down smoke a cigar because you're not going to get back up no and

[00:18:53] you're gonna sit there you know and then you're gonna have that looming that looming over you

[00:18:56] of like crap I now I still I still have to unpack the truck I still have to tell the tent

[00:19:01] I still have to do this and this and this like that and that's and so like getting to the campsite

[00:19:06] setting stuff up and then finally saying okay now I can relax like that's just something that so

[00:19:10] you can actually turn your brain off from those tasks but that's also why I got the tent that

[00:19:16] I did because my setup time is basically going to be cut in half and that's what we had.

[00:19:24] I copied Willow when she had the immediate pop-up tent now James has one until mine broke which then

[00:19:29] we realized we needed a bigger one anyways that was perfect because all I had to do is literally

[00:19:34] open it out of its little turtle bag throw it down and pop un-set the spikes and that was all

[00:19:39] yeah I love you Gilean there's nothing wrong with that for those of you who can't see in the

[00:19:44] chat she said I'll pop the chair and sit and watch fill and load that is accurate I have seen

[00:19:50] that but we always show up a day earlier so we get to also watch you. But see here's here's the

[00:19:59] weird thing though is that even the way Andrew just said that like oh there's a task to do

[00:20:04] before I can unwind I don't look at the task and say oh I have to unload the truck before I

[00:20:10] can take a break to me it's like no I want to unload the truck and I want to set all the stuff up

[00:20:15] I want just but if you sat down I know you enough to where if you sat down before you did that

[00:20:21] you wouldn't be able to get your mind off it until you did it. I think that's because Phil and I are task oriented individuals

[00:20:28] but there it is and y'all both yeah y'all both just said the same thing if I sit down and take that 10 minute

[00:20:35] break my mind is going to be just turning on I need to get the truck unloaded I need to get the truck

[00:20:40] unloaded and I can't stop I have to just get the task done and then I can take that. But that's not a

[00:20:47] bad thing either because it's you got you you have a you have a task so then afterwards is the reward

[00:20:54] and so so that's the kind of thing that like a proper camp again or just camping in general

[00:21:00] you you get to the site you unpack you do everything you get all the tasks done you

[00:21:04] get ready to go and now you can sit down and you're like okay my reward is a glass of whiskey and

[00:21:10] a cigar now I can realize but do this. But here in comes the problem what happens when

[00:21:18] I have tasks I could be doing but I know deep deep down inside I need to rest but I don't want

[00:21:24] to rest because I have tasks I could be working on but the task really could wait till later

[00:21:29] and it's not like it's going to be the end of the world but I can't I have trouble getting my mind

[00:21:34] off of it because I think that task still needs to get done right now. That is my version of my

[00:21:40] personal hell is that I have this personality where I'm constantly like chomping at the bit for

[00:21:45] the next thing to get done. You're kind of in a battle with yourself over it I've done the same

[00:21:49] thing that luckily I you know I have a partner who goes just hit it tomorrow and it does eat

[00:21:55] at me but being able to sit down or try to sit down yeah that is a struggle on its own I get it.

[00:22:05] It's only hours in the day so it's like you gotta you gotta pick your battles when it comes to

[00:22:09] certain things. Okay so this is what drives me insane I don't know how y'all are I've

[00:22:14] from moving from Arkansas and Mississippi to the east coast has been a slap in the face for how

[00:22:20] my internal clock works I'm used to things opening up by seven or eight being able to get

[00:22:26] everything done first thing in the morning and go on so luckily all the grocery stores open

[00:22:31] around 6 30 to 7 a.m so I can still get my grocery shopping on the weekends done

[00:22:38] I love you Gillian but my issue is is out on the east coast nothing opens till 10 o'clock

[00:22:44] on Saturdays or throughout the week 10 o'clock 11 o'clock and then on weekends some things

[00:22:49] don't open till noon which for me if my day isn't already going before 10 o'clock my whole day is ruined

[00:22:56] because I'm so task oriented that I like I'm up by 6 37 every single day so then I have 30 minutes

[00:23:04] to an hour before work where I get to sit and scroll for a little bit because I've already

[00:23:10] done the dishes I've already got a load of laundry going I've already let the chickens out and

[00:23:15] check their water and their feed that if my day starts later than that it knocks off my entire

[00:23:22] day I don't know if you both are like that well I know interest well I mean I mean no I get what

[00:23:29] you're saying because but the thing is though is yes stores don't open till 9 10 o'clock 11 o'clock

[00:23:34] well doctor's offices don't either I'm that person who I want to get my appointments done

[00:23:38] like that so the fact I have a doctor's office who will work with getting my son in at 8 a.m

[00:23:43] is a feat in its own because nothing opens till 9 o'clock as far as doctor's offices my day starts

[00:23:49] yeah yeah but I mean that's a thing is I guess if you got enough tasks that you know you do

[00:23:55] everything in the one day to where all right well the store doesn't open up until not until this time

[00:24:00] okay I'll hit it this time and I don't know that's the way my brain works is I'll sit there

[00:24:04] and like okay I need to go here well it doesn't open till this time all right well what can I

[00:24:08] do that okay this is I'm already keyed up thinking about how you're saying that

[00:24:15] but that's the thing though is what what the thing is is I mean that's how that's their hours for

[00:24:19] the business they're not gonna I'm they're not going to change for me and I'm not going to expect

[00:24:23] them to and when they open I'll get there so so then you know so then what I'm hearing is that

[00:24:29] Andrew and myself and Jordan are like kind of extreme obsidians of the spectrum

[00:24:34] but I feel like we all fight with the same problem because Andrew like you've you've said in the course

[00:24:39] of this conversation like what trips you up is sometimes is your proclivity maybe for I'm just

[00:24:46] going to take it off and be lazy but then that also caused you to kind of be a shut-in

[00:24:51] you know I'm saying like instead of instead of being able to go out do things get out and talk

[00:24:56] to people and have a little bit of social interaction being a homebody can hurt you

[00:25:00] with some but I'm like for me because I've done that where I've gone out I've enjoyed being out so

[00:25:05] much that when I got home I still had everything I still needed to do right and I get my my thing

[00:25:11] is always like I'll make plans or I'll sit there I'm like you know what I'm gonna go do this this

[00:25:15] and this and then the day of I'm like eh I don't really have to do that like I don't I don't

[00:25:21] really have to go to the you know this brewery out that I've been planning on for like the last

[00:25:25] month I've been like you know I'm like I don't need to go there because one it's like I look at my

[00:25:30] finances and I'm like well I'm not hurting but I'm just I don't feel like spending that money

[00:25:34] or I'm just like I'll spend it somewhere else or I don't really feel like talking or seeing anybody

[00:25:39] today so I'm just gonna like I don't want to go talk to anybody like I don't want to say a single word

[00:25:44] to anybody today so you know it I'll stay shut in and yeah that's not a that's not necessarily

[00:25:50] the best thing to do I mean humans we kind of are we're social creatures to a point to where

[00:25:55] we do need some social interaction I mean to a little bit of a point and but yeah it's just yeah

[00:26:03] it's just you got to find that balance you got to find that well okay you know what this my last

[00:26:07] couple days off I didn't do a single thing I gotta be motivated my next time you know and that's

[00:26:12] so that's the biggest thing is like I'm working on my porch well I did not do a single thing on

[00:26:17] this the last two days off I didn't do a single thing with my porch well next time I'm like

[00:26:20] okay I need to sit down I need to be that annoying friend dude fix your porch like I mean I have a

[00:26:28] friend a girlfriend I text her and every day drink water like I'm literally telling her every few

[00:26:34] hours to drink water I mean I'm that friend if you need me to be on your butt about it I'll

[00:26:38] send you a text and be like dude fix that for me I'm like block your number uh no no I mean

[00:26:48] it's just one of those things where I'm like all right I need to say I need because my next step

[00:26:51] and that's the thing is like I'm thinking about my next steps for remodeling the porch

[00:26:55] all right the next steps is okay I got the outdoor the crappy outdoor carpet pulled up now okay now I

[00:27:01] got all the stupid staples pulled up from the the board all right now what's the next step

[00:27:06] well I'm redoing the whole porch so I need to start pulling down some siding

[00:27:10] and everything like that so I'm just you know in my head I'm like okay what can I do with

[00:27:13] all this so so yeah I mean having tasks is not being task oriented isn't definitely not a bad thing

[00:27:19] but uh but now you have a deadline because Nick said he's coming to inspect your work well

[00:27:25] for the listeners Nick Emerson said bro best fix your porch before I get up

[00:27:29] I have a question for both of y'all I don't know if I'm the only one who does this but I end

[00:27:34] up putting a lot of task at hand that I end up um I have these all over the place

[00:27:42] I have a whiteboard on my refrigerator uh and downstairs like that is something that I do

[00:27:49] is I notate okay you know I need to put a link okay I need to reach out to Yana with

[00:27:56] Rovin blue oh I need to make sure I have my drop bags to show like do you do the same thing

[00:28:01] yeah yeah no I do the exact same thing because especially at work um just being in the position

[00:28:09] that I am now uh I I found that if I don't write it down I'm gonna forget it and so

[00:28:16] I've been writing down so much I've been making checklist uh all the time now at work

[00:28:22] and honestly I need to bring that into personal life too just because of the fact that

[00:28:26] it's like yesterday I had some stuff I need to get done uh and I got everything done I wanted to

[00:28:31] but I'm sitting there I'm like all right I need to do this this and this and then I get done doing

[00:28:36] one thing I'm like oh crap what was that one what was the last thing I needed I wanted to get

[00:28:40] the store it's like hey I need to go grocery shopping and I'm thinking okay I need to get

[00:28:43] this don't make a grocery list no I do and that's what I've been starting to do that

[00:28:48] that's what I've been doing is like if I don't make a grocery list I'll go in there and

[00:28:53] I've been trying to my my biggest thing is make the grocery list and stick to it don't diver

[00:28:59] no don't ever go hungry you're gonna find that you are the worst at grocery shopping if you're

[00:29:05] going while hungry because oh no I'm not the worst at grocery shopping because I am if I'm hungry

[00:29:11] if I'm hungry I'm in more trouble oh yeah no if I go and I'm hungry it's like you know what

[00:29:16] taco tonight nope you know what pizza tonight right oh you know what I need chips and dip as well

[00:29:22] and then I need this oh no and that's where like if I go if I'm when I go um no I usually do a list

[00:29:29] just because it's like all right I need I need whatever it is like and I'll think of different

[00:29:34] meals and stuff like that and but lately I've been putting off grocery shopping so just because

[00:29:39] I don't I've been I hate grocery shopping so I can pick up one yeah I could do that

[00:29:47] I mean I have no excuse of why I haven't I just don't but Andrew there are single females inside

[00:29:54] the grocery store yeah so if you go into the store and do grocery shopping it's not like the it's

[00:30:01] not like the older days where you could it was it was normal for picking up a female or you know

[00:30:06] a date at a grocery store it's I don't know I feel like now you might get pepper sprayed

[00:30:11] I think it's all on that your approach yeah that's true don't be weird no I mean have you been

[00:30:23] I mean do y'all not know me yeah don't try weird lines like man that's some good corn on the

[00:30:32] top and I'm gonna use that on my oh my god to get the weirdest look always hot ladies at

[00:30:41] crowbar's and target depending on what time Kyle Wilson else why is your getting the the grannies

[00:30:51] no but I think I think also what I think about when I talk about finding balances like

[00:30:56] I can remember I can remember a time in my career where I worked in a very different

[00:31:01] position and I was basically like by myself for don't walk up hold on second I gotta put this up

[00:31:08] because Gillian saying don't walk up to her while she is checking out the melons and tell her she's

[00:31:14] got some good ones there Gillian that that might come up in conversation the next time we're in

[00:31:19] the store together yeah oh my god I do not do it Andrew just walk up this is your challenge

[00:31:27] Phil in the middle of the store just walk away and give it a few minutes and walk back and then

[00:31:32] like you're a total stranger and be like ma'am those are some nice melons you got oh my god I'm sorry

[00:31:37] I'm actually tearing up on this one thinking about Andrew actually trying to say something

[00:31:46] I don't know if I'm eating right oh Andrew if you ever need the balls to do it you gotta tell

[00:31:50] me I'm sorry I'm sorry I don't I don't want to get pepper spray I'd pay the watch but like I was saying

[00:31:59] I think back to a time in my career where like I used to spend like basically an eight to nine

[00:32:03] hour day and I was basically I mean I was in a room full of people but I was basically by

[00:32:07] myself you know I was in I was in a job where I didn't have to good I didn't have to spend

[00:32:12] a lot of my day like meeting with and communicate with others I was given my work and I was

[00:32:17] allowed to do it and it was quite frankly it was lots of like really nerdy math and spreadsheet crap

[00:32:22] you know stuff that for me was not difficult because I'm a spreadsheet math nerd but it was one

[00:32:28] of the situations where like I could spend a nine hour day with my brain basically at idle

[00:32:33] and just do my job and it didn't it didn't tax me a lot it didn't it didn't push me a lot

[00:32:39] you know I'm saying like it wasn't stressful it I could literally that was back when I used

[00:32:44] to listen to like I don't know seven or eight different podcasts at a time because I would

[00:32:48] I'd literally just dial one up put me earbuds in and I'd start working and that was my day

[00:32:53] I was left alone to do something that was very easy for me and at that time I was constantly

[00:33:00] looking for things to get into so that's when I picked up reloading that's when I started

[00:33:04] co-hosting another podcast that's when I wrote my book that's when I was doing youtube content

[00:33:09] and I was constantly doing these other things because I was so bored at work I was so full

[00:33:15] of energy when I got done and then I transitioned into a career path that is like part project

[00:33:23] management so I'm constantly in meetings I'm constantly talking to people we're constantly

[00:33:26] having very contentious discussions about projects and negotiating things and I finish

[00:33:32] off a day and I am exhausted I don't want to talk to anybody I don't want to deal with

[00:33:37] anybody like Gillian knows when she hits the front door what kind of day I had because I either look

[00:33:43] like I've been beat within an inch of my life or I look like I'm you know a reasonably well

[00:33:48] adjusted human being but it really is just it's a job that drains me I I have it has given me

[00:33:56] the ability to provide for my family much better which is why I tolerate it but it's an

[00:33:59] emotionally draining job and as a result all the extra stuff I used to get into and all the extra

[00:34:07] hobbies I used to have I've had to discontinue a lot of them because I just don't have the energy left

[00:34:12] so like me finding balance between my work and my personal life I've really heavily

[00:34:18] transitioned away from I'm involved in all these extra things because I have this extra energy

[00:34:22] to burn off to I need I know I have to spend more time resting I know I have to spend more

[00:34:28] time by myself I have less energy to put into these extra endeavors I just don't have it anymore

[00:34:35] I am notorious for trying to pour from an empty cup and my wife is notorious for reminding me

[00:34:40] that I can't even though I debate that but like I my personal version of finding balance has always

[00:34:48] been whatever work takes away from me is I try to find a way to replenish you know so like

[00:34:54] if I'm working indoors and I'm staring at a laptop for nine hours when I'm off I want to go outside

[00:35:00] I want to get some fresh air I want to get some sunshine I don't want to sit in this house all

[00:35:05] day or all weekend long but on the flip side of things my wife works as a teacher so she's

[00:35:10] surrounded by like a hundred screeching little you know ankle biters all day long

[00:35:15] and when it comes time for her weekend she does not want to be around anybody she wants to

[00:35:20] just she wants peace and quiet and a recliner and I get it and we that's the balance drives all day

[00:35:27] long cleaning pools so when he gets home he wants to chill and then on the weekends he really

[00:35:32] doesn't want to drive so he gets to be the passenger princess while I drive because I'm trapped

[00:35:37] in my at my desk at home all day and real quick I have to make a comment on Nicholas

[00:35:42] he said it would be a hard no if to Kyle Wilson's comment about us creating Andrew a date

[00:35:48] and profile one it would be dangerous if Gillian I created one for Andrew and two

[00:35:56] um I unfortunately on that last comment I've always been the aggressor with every guy I've

[00:36:01] ever been with so there's no telling how Andrews profile would turn out with both me

[00:36:10] it would be interesting Andrew I wouldn't wish that on you

[00:36:14] I'm not giving you guys my passwords probably the same one you've always used

[00:36:22] password one two three four

[00:36:28] Bobo one two three four it's not far off no no director in there too don't forget

[00:36:39] he likes to use the dollar sign instead of the star it makes him feel like a big man

[00:36:46] thanks you feel like I'm where were you saying I don't remember um no yeah it's it's just all

[00:36:51] about balance I mean that's the thing is and and that's what's nice about like I mean Jordan

[00:36:57] like you and Chris that he doesn't want to drive so on the weekends you do like that I don't mind

[00:37:01] I enjoy driving it's bad enough I'm gonna have to make a 12 and a half hour drive next weekend

[00:37:07] hmm where are you going next weekend I gotta get the kids

[00:37:12] oh yeah yeah 12 and a half hours yeah that's uh actually it's gonna be more than that it's 11 and

[00:37:18] a half one way so it's gonna be a full days drive they're in that yeah yeah I mean but yeah you

[00:37:27] can then you could I mean I don't know how the weather is down there right now but you could

[00:37:30] always throw in some camping and stuff like that to break up the day the days of it but

[00:37:35] usually audiobooks that's probably one of my things that I used to unwind I don't know

[00:37:40] if either of y'all do when I'm cooking or cleaning or I know it's something monotonous that I have to

[00:37:46] get done and I'm just not feeling it I will put on an audiobook just or just so I have something to

[00:37:53] break it up or even listen to some music on the drive or whatever no audio listen audio books all

[00:37:59] the time and I actually listen to audiobooks more than I listen to music now it's uh when I drive

[00:38:04] it's it's always it's usually always audiobooks but there's a couple days like uh the last

[00:38:08] couple days have been seven you know about 70 degrees like really nice weather uh when it's not

[00:38:13] raining it's been pretty nice so and so yeah right now it's perfect man but uh it's no instead of

[00:38:20] audiobooks I'll roll the windows down and play some music just because one you can't hear the

[00:38:24] audiobook that well so why listen to it um but I'll play music and stuff like that but no it's

[00:38:29] but no having that having that uh that reset is it's important I mean for some people it's just

[00:38:36] simply just relaxing having a day off whatever other people it's I don't know I mean you know and

[00:38:41] but again like that's why that's kind of why going back to the truck and stuff that's why I kind of

[00:38:46] tried to outfit it the way I did was just so I can load up and go and that's that that's that

[00:38:51] that's my goal this summer is to try to do that more often to break up that routine break

[00:38:55] up that rut that you know I might fall into um and just break up that and just try to recharge

[00:39:01] different ways find something else to do in the process you might find that you know you might

[00:39:05] make new friends in the process and you know you never know what you're going to run into so uh

[00:39:10] so it's hopefully it's you know it's all got a plan we'll see what happens I yeah part of the

[00:39:16] reason I brought this topic up in the first place was because like specific to the preparedness

[00:39:20] community like so much of what we talk about when we're having a serious moment is things like

[00:39:27] bootaloop and watching your surroundings and situational awareness and all these all these

[00:39:31] things that sound like hell on earth to the average person because they interpret that as well you're

[00:39:36] always worried about something you're always keyed up you're always looking for a threat and to a

[00:39:40] degree we kind of are but I bring this up in that vein because that constant assessing a threat

[00:39:47] working on preps assess a threat working on preps that constant cycle in the preparedness

[00:39:52] community can burn people out too and my worry is that I personally have seen people kind of like

[00:40:00] they they've shelved the preparedness lifestyle because it burnt them out and ate at them it was

[00:40:06] too much constant work and too much constant not even it's not even like the physical work all

[00:40:11] the time sometimes it really is just the emotional psychological I'm always worried about stuff so

[00:40:18] I've always tried to encourage people like when I talk about being able to do anything long term

[00:40:22] and sustainable like you have to at a certain point and this is something that I preach whenever we

[00:40:29] talk about finances like years ago Gillian and I had a discussion about finances and budgeting and

[00:40:34] all that nerdy crap nobody cares about but I pointed out to her I'm like you know if you

[00:40:39] want to get your nails done then you just put money in the budget every month to get your nails

[00:40:42] done and the money's there go spend it guilt free go do it it's there so I always tell people I'm

[00:40:49] like when you when you look at like in my personal finances and I look at I have all these things that

[00:40:55] are prepper related that I'd like to get done eventually but that it's not like I have to get

[00:41:01] through the whole list before we can finally have some fun interspersed in there some places

[00:41:06] okay well this this thing's going to come down the list because I got to fit in a vacation here

[00:41:10] and this thing's got to come down the list because I got to fit in a vacation here because my wife and

[00:41:13] daughter will murder me if I don't take them out to the beach this summer so like you have to you

[00:41:19] have to budget some time to decompress and not have another task to do you have to budget some money

[00:41:25] to go out and have some fun and live life along the way like we can't we can't go to our grave

[00:41:31] constantly chomping at the bit for the next project and chomping at the bit for the next

[00:41:35] bucket of rice and beans and chomping at the bit for the next case of ammo like we have to

[00:41:39] have some fun every now and well and for me part of what helps me find that balance point is the fact

[00:41:46] that a lot of things that are prepper related I'm using air quotes around that quite frankly are

[00:41:50] hobbies to me like I enjoy going to the gun range there is no work involved in me reloading ammo

[00:41:58] go into the gun range I enjoy every moment every hour I spend it shouldn't prep and for us it

[00:42:04] shouldn't it's a good balance for me it's no different than the rest of my entire day and if

[00:42:11] if prepping is stressful then there's something off there yeah and I mean but that's a thing though

[00:42:19] is like if you're the the the days off like days that you might just relax and not do much of

[00:42:24] anything I mean pick up there's been times where I've been I've read some articles I've done

[00:42:28] I've read articles I've watched some YouTube videos on on something preparedness related like

[00:42:34] it you know not burning out it's the stuff I just actually yesterday after I got my truck looked at

[00:42:41] I went to I stopped at Sierra trading outpost I think it is or something like that and then

[00:42:47] REI and I was just looking around for I'm like you know what the truck I'm like I need to get

[00:42:52] I need to get some utensils I need to get some stuff for the kitchen like I want to I want

[00:42:56] to build out so I can just so I can put in stuff like that so I went through bought some stuff

[00:43:00] we repack the the drawer system and did everything the nice thing about when you buy if you buy like

[00:43:07] camping related items or what even if it's like prepper related items and again I guess prepper

[00:43:12] and and air quotes if you buy some of these items like a new just something a new piece of gear

[00:43:19] if you can take it out in the woods and test it out that can be wrapped up in your

[00:43:23] vacation you have all these supplies and you're like all right cool well I have these I have these

[00:43:26] four new pieces of gear let's uh let's do a camping trip and then I'm going to test these out and

[00:43:32] like I want to get used to do using them and let's and see how well they work and so that

[00:43:37] can and so that's the fun part of it too and get out and using your gear but yeah I mean that's

[00:43:45] you know prepping we don't want to the whole thing with people prepping the whole big worry

[00:43:51] I guess that's where I've been living my life to where it's uh

[00:43:56] yeah I mean Kyle you're exactly right and that's what we uh we for the audio listeners we have

[00:44:01] right comment I get beat I get beat up every time I don't do yeah so anyway Kyle's cut I think prepping

[00:44:07] can be stressful if you constantly watch the news it's easy to get sucked into the fear and

[00:44:10] that is an accurate and then that's what you're seeing even now prepping should not be something

[00:44:16] of fear and drama it is to be ready for anything that could be thrown at you so you don't have to

[00:44:22] have that level of fear for something that you know may or may not even possibly happen that's the

[00:44:28] point of prepping is to make sure we are able to feed and protect our family we're able to

[00:44:34] pick ourselves back up if our house gets knocked down for whatever situation it should not

[00:44:40] I don't watch the media more than I mean I know what's going on currently

[00:44:44] but I don't sit there and pay attention I'll real quick chime in see what's going on

[00:44:48] elsewise I don't give two additional glances at what's going on just because I don't have the time

[00:44:56] emotionally mentally or physically to deal with everything else other than what I'm trying

[00:45:01] to do and control my own life I don't need stress it's not worth it well no it's not

[00:45:06] worth it but the other thing too is I I don't know it's how I've been it's been a number

[00:45:12] years now but I I picked up the I picked up the three-fold world concept and the the idea that

[00:45:21] basically you know if it's not within your immediate three-fold world meaning like how far

[00:45:26] you like you're within your reach what you can actually physically manipulate and if it doesn't

[00:45:32] affect me I've really gotten to the point where I just don't let it bother me I mean I know

[00:45:36] you know apparently according to our you know amazing US government that never lies to its people

[00:45:43] Russia used chemicals on Ukraine you know and I I've read articles and I've seen some things

[00:45:50] that people are freaking losing their mind about it they're losing their mind about China

[00:45:54] and over Taiwan and they're losing their mind about the college campuses who kids are being

[00:45:59] pro-hamas not even realizing what their chanting is for is calling for terrorism itself in and now the

[00:46:08] federal what was a federal law that passed for anti and no anti-Semitism language being allowed

[00:46:16] whatsoever and then which cuts into a lot of things not trying to be anti-Semitic but it

[00:46:23] cuts into the history of things like even biblical wise that makes it illegal to even mention

[00:46:29] but on top of that you've got these people who are pro-hamas who are chanting for terrorism now be

[00:46:36] an anti-Semitic Hitler would be rolling over in his grave with pride with just how bad things have

[00:46:42] gotten just on US soil alone it's absurd absolutely yeah but that's no you're fine no but but that's

[00:46:50] but that's where like I practice it's like the three-fold world because the three-fold world

[00:46:56] is because the fact that that crap like yeah the what congress passes like that does have a it does

[00:47:02] have somewhat of an effect on the american people especially if you if I don't know if you get slapped

[00:47:07] with you oh miss is it going on huh sorry I didn't mean it causing alabama

[00:47:15] and I lived not even 20 minutes from Ole Miss so that's why i'm like wait a second i'll

[00:47:20] have to reach out and find out some stuff from over there right that's the thing though is

[00:47:24] like this stuff really where I live right now a lot of the stuff has no direct impact to me so

[00:47:30] like i'm not going to worry about the you know what the the kids that are burning down their

[00:47:34] college and they're messing their college up and doing all kinds of crap you know what like that

[00:47:38] and not it's not even and that's the thing though is their agitators their paid agitators

[00:47:43] who they like they found that a lot of that a lot of the people that were there they don't

[00:47:46] even go to that college they're busting well no but they're also running into the fact

[00:47:51] that a lot of those kids the reason they don't want media there or social media or any any sort

[00:47:56] of media there is because these kids are getting caught and are being suspended and so they think

[00:48:01] the ones who are the students think that if as long as no one sees it's them there are no

[00:48:06] consequences to their actions and they're finding out the old adage there are consequences

[00:48:10] to everything you do right so if you're gonna act like an idiot you should be treated like an

[00:48:15] idiot yeah correct but i mean that's a whole different show

[00:48:21] like that's it but that's the thing though is what's happening to them like hey that's great i'm

[00:48:25] i'm happy that they're getting en masse and all that crap like again that's a different show

[00:48:29] but i'm saying like what's going on there compared to where i live it has nothing i have no control

[00:48:36] over it so i'm not letting it bother me right now what i it has no it has no direct impact

[00:48:42] and so what i'm doing is yeah i'm i'm i might be buying some more ammo or i might be

[00:48:46] packing up some more food or doing something else but that's that's my daily thing my daily thing is

[00:48:51] okay i'm you know either buy it maybe it may be buying some have a buying some more food

[00:48:56] reading on something uh as far as preprim related uh buying some gear for my truck uh figuring

[00:49:03] out i mean i'm figuring out where i want to go camping here in a few weeks like i'm not changing

[00:49:08] my routine because of what's going on at these colleges universities like what that what's going on

[00:49:13] sucks uh because it there's a lot of a lot more thing happening underneath that people aren't even

[00:49:19] seeing or they even care about but at the same time it does not affect me my three-fold world

[00:49:24] does not include that crap like it doesn't it so i'm not letting it bother me and that's where

[00:49:30] i think a lot of people when it comes to preparedness and stuff like that just prepare

[00:49:35] for just a power outage prepare for something that could physically affect you here and and

[00:49:40] just move on with it and don't let things bother you i used to get tied up in the i used to see

[00:49:45] news articles constantly and i would freaking worry all the time about it i would lose sleep

[00:49:50] over news articles about certain things and finally i realized this is like i came across

[00:49:55] this edit you know that the rule there and i'm like the stress that after not letting things

[00:50:02] bother me that i have no control over like the whole thing with uh i mean the what the some of

[00:50:08] the dunes day craft out there like uh the movies out there like oh man there's gonna be a comment

[00:50:12] that's gonna hit earth you know what if it does it does like i'm sorry like it sucks at the end

[00:50:19] of the day that does suck a lot but i i can't sit there and be like no comment don't don't you

[00:50:24] dare uh no i'm gonna there's certain things if it does happen there's nothing that we can do

[00:50:30] in any level of preparedness that's really gonna protect us especially in a situation like that so

[00:50:35] there's no point in adding some that's i'm saying though is there right no but that's what i'm saying

[00:50:41] though is that like there's no reason for it to affect me and control my life when i i literally

[00:50:47] cannot do anything about it and stuff so so yeah i guess that's my that's my big thing with

[00:50:52] trying to talk to people is and tell people stop letting things worry about you know

[00:50:57] stop letting things control your life that you have zero effect on like if it you have physically

[00:51:04] you physically cannot change all this stuff so stop worrying about it worry about what you can

[00:51:10] physically change and what you can physically grab if you have a child that's sick like that's

[00:51:15] you know as a as a parent i mean i'm not a parent but as a child that's sick like that's

[00:51:20] within your three-fold world you can take care of your child you can take care of that

[00:51:23] now the child getting better like yeah that's depending on medications and what's going on and

[00:51:27] all that crap i mean some of that is out of your control it's hard not to worry about it but it's

[00:51:32] out of your control you've got a you you know it's hard to not to worry but yeah it's just stop

[00:51:38] fear mongering i think for me and this is like andrew and i have i don't want to say fought

[00:51:44] over but he's he has he has had to deal with the fact that like i am a bit of a type a wary

[00:51:50] wart and my personality tends to i don't want to say obsessed but i tend i tend to become very

[00:51:58] concerned about things and i can't let go of it and i have had yeah and i i have had and i

[00:52:07] this is something i like i recognized in myself back in my 20s i mean i i came to terms with

[00:52:12] this when i deployed to iraq is i have to look at the situation and then like to andrew's

[00:52:19] point about if you have a sick kid at home you can influence the trajectory of how that kid gets

[00:52:24] better but there's a certain amount of it you can't influence some of this just gonna take as long as

[00:52:28] it takes so i've had to develop this personality where i say these are the these are the strings

[00:52:34] i can pull on to influence the trajectory of the situation in the way i wanted to go

[00:52:40] and these are the strings i can't pull i can't reach them and i have to make peace with the

[00:52:44] fact that these are the things i can do and after i've done those things i have to let go

[00:52:49] i have to emotionally let go and not obsess over well if i could do this and make things

[00:52:54] better if i could do this make things better because i can't do those things so like again

[00:53:00] part of finding balance for me has been i look for those things i have some amount of control

[00:53:06] over and i work my butt off to make sure those things have been dealt with i you know i put

[00:53:13] i have a life insurance policy i put money away in the savings money away in the 401k i

[00:53:17] i do everything i can to prepare my family for the worst days of our lives but after i've

[00:53:23] done all those things i'm not going to continue to obsessively worry about it i'm not going

[00:53:27] to sit there and worry about like i've been watching some of the local news channels and

[00:53:31] they're anticipating a very spicy hurricane season i live on the gulf coast so is that concerning

[00:53:38] to me hell yeah it is anybody that's like it wasn't it wasn't but a couple years ago hurricane i had

[00:53:43] a wiped out five zip codes down here like another bad hurricane season is very alarming to me but i've

[00:53:50] done everything i can think of to get my family ready for it i've got one other project to

[00:53:54] get done before hurricane season starts so i'm running out of time but once i've done all

[00:53:59] those things i'm not going to worry about anymore i'm going to assess the situation

[00:54:04] i'm going to do what i think is right i'm going to take care of my family so like

[00:54:08] part of me finding balance in between this type a worry wart and a healthy amount of attention

[00:54:16] being paid that i can sustain without driving myself nuts is i have to say these are the

[00:54:21] things i control over these are the things i don't have control over and i have to let all

[00:54:25] these things go into andrew's point about the three-foot world these are the things inside

[00:54:30] of three feet and i'm going to make damgund sure i nail them down i get it as like hurricane

[00:54:35] seasons hitting for us we have a fireplace that has been removed so we can't use it because you know

[00:54:41] landlords want to make sure it's not up to par with the insurance or whatever so now we have to look at

[00:54:47] secondary meat sources for cooking and everything else so we do have a fire put outside but if we

[00:54:54] lose power and outside like crap then how are we supposed to go outside to cook so i'm actually

[00:54:59] looking at they have a little uh almost like a like the little camp and stove we use when we go out to

[00:55:05] prepper camp but they have it built where you can use a big propane tank for a kitchenette oven set

[00:55:13] it's like 200 even so i'm trying to sell so a few of my dump bags are saved up enough so i can

[00:55:19] go ahead invest in that and then don't feel like i've used any additional expenditure from our

[00:55:25] way of living to pay for an emergency setup that we can take with us when we camp or use for any

[00:55:32] situation here if the tornadoes or hurricanes hit us as hard as they like you said they're saying it's

[00:55:38] going to be nasty this year yeah and unfortunately you know like we all know when it comes to like

[00:55:46] tornadoes just the last couple weeks have been really really spicy up in the midwest

[00:55:50] even though i no longer live in that region i have been watching it because regardless of the fact i

[00:55:57] don't live there i do have family and loved ones there but anything that hits y'all hits us in a day

[00:56:03] or two afterwards so i'm always watching to see how bad you're getting hit because it doesn't

[00:56:08] always die down by the time it hits us sometimes they'll re-pick up back speed once it hits part

[00:56:14] of South Carolina so it's the same for me as i watch it because if y'all are getting hit that

[00:56:20] hard now there's no telling how hard the season is really going to hit once it hits us yeah but

[00:56:29] like we were talking about a minute ago like that's the hard part is that it's so it is so incredibly

[00:56:35] easy to fall into i call it fear porn oh it's fair like because we all know we all know how

[00:56:41] the mainstream media works their goal their their whole job is to outrage or scare the hell out of you

[00:56:46] because the longer you watch the more you click the more money they make so they figured out that

[00:56:51] oodle-loop a long time ago and that's what they're always throwing up in front of you is what outrages

[00:56:55] you and what scares you and i have to make a conscious effort to not allow myself to fall

[00:57:00] into that because it's just not healthy no so that's what i always tell people is is i'm like

[00:57:05] you can't you cannot exist in a state of constant no you have to be able to you have to be able to

[00:57:12] like flip the channel i'm gonna say that the the happiest moment of my life is when we got rid of

[00:57:18] like we got rid of our satellite to hide tv subscription in this house there's no news

[00:57:23] there's none of that nonsense it's all streaming it's what we choose to expose ourselves to

[00:57:28] i intentionally limit my news consumption it has been so freaking peaceful right now i agree with you

[00:57:35] like the only thing like that had me a little up was the total title nine thing so i've got that just

[00:57:43] means more awareness on my end for my daughters yeah i mean and that's well and i guess what i'm

[00:57:50] saying is that there's a healthy balance of look out on the look out on the horizon so that you

[00:57:55] can be aware of things but not but then also realize like can i stop the way that politics is flowing

[00:58:04] not really so then be aware of it right and that was my whole thing is i'm not going to sit there

[00:58:09] and worry about it 24 7 but it doesn't mean now knowing what's going on with title nine doesn't

[00:58:15] mean i can't be more vigilant to those situations where i may be out in public and with my daughters

[00:58:21] trying to use a public restroom and a man walks in so it's just i mean stay strapped i mean it's no

[00:58:28] different than okay i had a situation i actually thought of you feel the other day i knock out my

[00:58:34] grocery shop in early i i was able to run without having to take my son and as i'm getting out

[00:58:42] of the car at the croaker here i see a woman loading up her two littles and i mean little

[00:58:48] littles and i'm i'm carrying and anytime i'm going anywhere i'm strapped and i

[00:58:55] pull out of my vehicle she's parked right in front of me i'm right behind her pulled up behind

[00:58:59] i get out and i sit on the hood of my car or lean on it and said i'm just gonna stand here and

[00:59:04] watch out for you because she had loaded one child into the car had to leave one baby still in

[00:59:09] the the cart i mean single mom doing this by herself so i told her i was i'm standing here she

[00:59:14] goes thank you i appreciate she goes normally i come to this strapped and i thought of a situation

[00:59:19] you had mentioned with your daughter when she was little and um i lifted up my the corner of my

[00:59:25] shirt and said don't worry i am i said she goes no i appreciate she goes you wouldn't believe how

[00:59:29] many people won't look out for each other anymore so it's the same thing of being vigilant wherever

[00:59:33] you go even if you're not prepared for yourself you can at least be prepared for somebody else

[00:59:40] yeah well we're right up on about an hour so in an effort to not allow this to go to two

[00:59:49] i mean is there anything else we throw in here talking about finding balance i mean i just

[00:59:54] i feel like you know for purely for mental health reasons i think it's really important

[01:00:02] that everybody tries to find a balance point in their life like whether we're talking about

[01:00:08] type a task driven and not knowing how to decompress or a person being very type b and trying to fight

[01:00:14] against not getting things done because they're spending too much time relaxing or a person that's

[01:00:19] too introverted or too extroverted or too worried or too laid back like no matter where

[01:00:25] we take that conversation or no matter who we apply it to i feel like it's just super

[01:00:29] super important that everybody finds a balance point their life well how about i send you a

[01:00:35] coloring book and some crayons it works though it works you say an outlet and an outlet

[01:00:45] for a type a personality is what's needed but for a type b personality sometimes what they need

[01:00:50] is a schedule or check or something to keep keep them moving so that's what i'm saying like whether

[01:00:57] no matter who we're applying this to i feel like it's super important that everybody finds their

[01:01:01] balance point in the life so that they're getting things done but they're not grinding themselves

[01:01:06] to nothing because like you know the the one thing that has worried me about very close friends for

[01:01:12] years is if you get too isolated that will eat at you if you spend too much time without time

[01:01:19] yourself they can eat at you like i i worry about the people around me because i know that

[01:01:25] if i were left my own devices i would work myself into an early grave i i have that personality

[01:01:30] i'm a workaholic i hate taking time off but i have someone in my life who tells me dummy to sit down

[01:01:37] and take it easy today i have that person who's my my reality check but not everybody does so

[01:01:43] that's why i thought it'd be this would be a good conversation just to talk about like

[01:01:46] if no matter which one of those people you are you need that person or that thing or

[01:01:52] that mechanism in your life that brings you back to the center holly amen yeah okay well jordan thanks

[01:02:05] for thanks for joining us as i bore the crap out of everybody with all that right adult coloring

[01:02:11] books are oh they have adult coloring books at work i actually had a friend who sent me adult

[01:02:16] coloring books i actually had a girlfriend send me one years ago because she said that i needed

[01:02:21] to find something that wasn't task driven so i could decompress and i have some doctor who

[01:02:33] i don't know how to react to adult color i'm gonna send you one they actually have some that have

[01:02:36] adult words in it like fuck shit like all that this it's phenomenal i'm gonna order you one

[01:02:42] and send it well i get to mark this episode explicit now

[01:02:48] earlier so i think that already set you as ed explicit

[01:02:52] damn it jordan is there way you can beep this out when uh i mean if you can beep it i'm sorry man

[01:03:02] you should warn me at the beginning i have a potty mouth you know this don't i mean all right well

[01:03:11] if anybody was watching the stream and had kids around i apologize but exactly otherwise i'm

[01:03:18] releasing stress kyle gets it he's got my back okay now kyle has to supervise like you know a thousand

[01:03:30] women today oh see i was construction for quite a while so so you so you supervise a thousand men

[01:03:38] a day yeah now it's i deal with a bunch of angry patients and i promise you some of their

[01:03:43] languages worse than mine i bet so everybody knows where i'd find andrew andrew we haven't talked about

[01:03:52] your youtube channel in a while so remind everybody about that it's huh we don't have to oh you've got

[01:03:59] your own on youtube now uh oh yeah no i'll sit what's that it's called bubble fets misadventures

[01:04:07] bubble fets bubble fets wait that's what you changed your instagram too right

[01:04:13] yeah yeah there you go ladies

[01:04:18] yeah he's out there fine to me has has truck will travel has truck will travel wait wait wait so does

[01:04:24] that mean now you're gonna drive to the south uh i mean i'm going to south carol or north carolina

[01:04:32] you're coming to south carolina come on buddy and you're also coming to tennessee yeah going to

[01:04:40] tennessee wait what maybe in tennessee uh we'll talk about it off off show yeah because we may because

[01:04:50] there may be some changes on my end i might be able to make it it just all depends how this next

[01:04:55] week goes um yeah we'll talk about that here but um no uh bubble fets misadventures on youtube and

[01:05:03] instagram so hopefully we can get some more content out here shortly where can they enjoy

[01:05:10] right now it's phoenix survival on instagram i actually need to get my youtube and everything

[01:05:17] fixed up i've been just streaming on insta and tiktok and you're also on the prepper

[01:05:24] i am on proper broadcast and network and i'm sorry i have to show this real quick because kyle

[01:05:29] has been begging for pictures for the drop bags for like the last week do you care if i

[01:05:33] do a plug on your go for it so oh no it's blurred how do i remove the blur i don't know you have to

[01:05:41] take the blur off of your um virtual background go to settings you guys spend all time no i can

[01:05:52] do it real quick here it is okay i see it let's see nope it won't let me do it drag um

[01:06:01] sorry i will make sure i post something on i'll do it on my instagram but i have the drop bags i've

[01:06:08] been making and i've already sent out a couple and he was asking to see him and i can't take the

[01:06:15] word well kyle can find them on your instagram yeah i'll put up a video on there all right well

[01:06:22] i'm gonna punt this one out the door so i can go eat beans and rice with my wife and daughter

[01:06:27] but matter of fact podcast heading out the door with phoenix survival check her out on instagram

[01:06:31] and tumblr you said no no instagram just say instagram just instagram and prepper broadcast

[01:06:42] network and talk to you another week bye robotic bye